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The Quiet


Our good friend Kathala died last week.  This week we attended a visitation and a funeral. We went to the cemetery and we mingled with the flood of people who came to say goodbye.   There were tears aplenty.  There will be more to come. They come at surprising times.  The house is quiet now.

Almost every Friday afternoon for over ten years, I've had a date with Kathala and Sandra and Judith.   We'll still get together, but it won't be the same and we all know it.  We met at her house a lot of the time.  We talked nonstop for hours and hours and laughed and cried on repeat. She would never let us leave until everything was discussed in great detail.  Whenever anyone said anything about weirdness of the week, Kathala would pause in surprise and then say, "You know what?" and we would laugh hysterically in response.

Then she'd dive into her thoughts about why this weird thing happened or why it shouldn't have happened or why it keeps happening.  And today I'm just wishing I could hear her say, "You know what?" a bunch more times.

Comments

mm said…
Hugs!
KC said…
Love this tribute. xoxo
Anonymous said…
Oh I wish you could too!!!!
Anonymous said…
That was me- Linda 😘
bluebirdwoman said…
What a huge loss. Kathy's smile and laugh will be missed by all. What a presence!!
jdoc said…
Kathy sounds like one of the best. Love to you.
Anonymous said…
I miss her so much.
judy
cb said…
This is a lovely tribute. I am so sorry to hear the sad news. Love to you and to all the wonderful people who loved Kathy.

xo
cb
marion said…
I was so sorry to hear about this. Kathy had such a great laugh and joyful way about her. She was one of those people who lifts everyone up. This is a beautiful tribute.

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