Wednesday, June 03, 2026

Kicking Around Toulouse

 








Toulouse is a great city for kicking around.  

Today I walked and wrote in the cloister of the Couvent des Jacobins. This is where Dominican Friars lived starting in the early 1200s.  Unlike monks, friars could leave the convent to go out to preach.  You might be surprised to learn that convents can refer to homes for friars, monks, or nuns. 

Friars are mendicants, so they live through begging.  These friars eventually got donations from wealthy Toulousians.  Some of the elite families hogged the prime burial spots in the convent because a good spot helped you get to heaven quicker.  

The Dominican friars stayed super busy each day with attending mass, collecting alms, studying the bible, singing in the choir, copying manuscripts, and completing chores.  They couldn't eat meat or fat, so most of their meals consisted of pureed vegetables.  Occasionally they would enjoy a fruit or two.  

I thought about my dad quite a bit while walking around.  He loved to talk history especially where the Catholics are concerned. My newfound interest in the Dominicans would have kept him going for a good long while.  

After the convent I checked out the contemporary Art museum which is situated in a former slaughterhouse.  Learned about the amazing fashion artist-designer Charles Castelbajac.  You can read about him here if you feel like it provided that you know how to speak the French language.  Fun fact --- the language of this region was Occitan at one time.    Street signs here are in both French and Occitan.  Medieval troubadours sang away in Occitan as they troubadoured about.

I've visited a plethora of museums and basilicas here in Toulouse.  I've sat in public parks and plazas.  Have enjoyed cafe creme next to the River Garonne. Have actually enjoyed everything, to tell you the truth. Basically, I can't complain.  

Friday, May 29, 2026

The Retirement


 My final day of working was last Friday, so I've been retired for one week.  The 3rdLanders weren't too crazy about my retirement but I told them I had a plan to work until age 65 and I did it.  One kiddo asked, "Why can't you work until you're 85?"  

Another asked, "Why can't you just work until you die?"

Wasn't sure how to respond, so we just moved on.  I'm pleased with retirement so far.  I had a great sendoff with a veritable plethora of kind words and gifts and hugs. 

Bonus: #1 Son and Lucy were here this week and double bonus:  Now Husbandman and I are heading off to Toulouse, Paris, London, Dublin and DINGLE!   I'll be blogging so please tune in if you feel like it.  

I'm not packed yet because time means nothing to me at this point.  



Sunday, May 03, 2026

The Tasks

 

Peonies at Rose Hill Ceremony!

Retirement's on the horizon my friends.  Today I applied for social security.  I also added my new email address to this very blog so that I can keep blogging when I'm done with 3rdLand.  Not going to lie.  I've been nervous about both these tasks.  When I'm nervous about a task, I avoid it like the plague.  Not my best trait, but on the good side, everything that needs doing eventually gets done for the most part. Case in point: other forms that need to be sent to other places have been sent. Husbandman deserves a lot of the credit for the completion of these tasks.  THANK YOU HUSBANDMAN!

This week all the retirees and stars (separate category) of the school district will have a celebratory dinner.  Also this week, our school is hosting a happy luncheon for this retiree.  

School ends on the 22.  You might recall that last summer I was feeling ambivalent about retiring. That's over.  I feel only excitement and cheer.  Get ready for more blogging, more texting, more miscellaneous contacting.  Win win!



Thursday, April 23, 2026

The Retirement


  Took this photo at the orchids exhibit at Newfields Greenhouse. The plant was an outlier, unlike any orchid in the house.  Doesn't look like an orchid.  Maybe someone placed it as a prank. 

Wednesday, April 22, 2026

Thursday, February 26, 2026

Love and Literacy


Happy to report that I have partied through my last Valentine's Day of my teaching career.

 I  usually steer clear of doom-filled sentiments about how teaching used to be dreamy delightful, and today verges on nightmare, but sometimes facts must be faced.

Valentine's Day in the elementary classroom has taken a concerning plummet down the tubes.

Its whole purpose in years past centered on the cards. Passing them out.  Reading each goofy line of love while munching on candy hearts.   Kids called  out sweet comments across the room like, "Thanks, Scott.  You know I love cats" and "This is so funny, Ally!" If a card was more on the lovey-dovey side, you would see kids smiling, huddling with friends to whisper about possible implications of that simple missive, "BE MINE."

The card meant something back in the day but today's valentine is merely a piece of trash connected to a ring pop  or a package of  "fun dip." Cards, if they exist at all, get gathered up with the candy wrappers and tossed in the recycling bin even though I've told them thousands of times that food wrappings can not be recycled. 

I told #1 Son that I was thinking about writing about this decline.  He said, "You can begin with the title, 'The Day Our Children Forgot How to Love.'"

That's extreme. Which may have been his point. But let's not scoff at the significance of this cultural shift. If we all work together, we might be able to reverse this troubling trend. My message is simple. Let's bring literacy back to the Day of Love.  It's not too late. 




Wednesday, February 11, 2026

The Olecranon


 Husbandman visits a good bakery on Saturdays, to pick up breakfast pastries and treats for afternoon tea. I usually have a scone and a pecan bar. This Sunday past, he slipped on ice and came down hard on his olecranon, the pointy tip of the elbow. 

X-ray technology showed us that Husbandman's arm suffered an "extensively comminuted fracture of the olecranon process of the proximal left ulna. The main fracture fragment is displaced posterior superiorly by 1.5 cm."  

He had surgery yesterday and now has six screws and a metal plate restoring his shattered elbow to its original form. Good news for Husbandman is that he will not lose use of his triceps. Come to find out, the tricep isn't worth a plugged nickel without the helpful olecranon. 

The best news of all is that Husbandman, in extreme pain and distress, successfully picked up the box of pastries, and delivered them to our home safe and sound.  

Thursday, January 29, 2026

The Feelings Check


Like you, I've been feeling feelings as I witness what's happening in Minneapolis and elsewhere. The people there are so incredibly brave.  Feeling:  Awed inspiration.  I then read nothing but hypocrisy and lies from our despicable thuggy government.  Feeling: Raging disgust.  I make phone calls and donate money. Feeling: Slightly diminished powerlessness. (Just a smidge). 
 
A teacher once told me, "Feelings are your best friends."  

In that spirit, I address you, Seething Rage, and invite you in. Please make yourself at home. You can sit and chat with Overwhelming Sadness while I work on e-Learning plans and make another useless call to yell at the greedy heartless folk who run this state. 



Saturday, January 10, 2026

The Hoosiers

Challenge:  Can you find this small house in Asheville

Hoosiers are heading to the Natty.  I'm not a football aficionada, but I am a long time fan of happiness and this team has spread the cheer to the people of B-town. We'll take cheer anywhere we can get it at this point

IU fans have been through the gosh darned mill. Verily, the pathos of past seasons lingers still in the collective memory. Specific personal examples follow: 

  •  #1 Son considering Michigan for college, "If you're going to college, you might as well be at a place with a winning football team."
  • Mall shopper sobbing to friend after another loss, "No bowl game?"
  • Husbandman's squashing of optimism after a rare victory with, "They played East Overshoe State.  It means nothing." 
  • Notre Dame fanatic father asking repeatedly, "What happened to IU?  In the 40s under Bo McMillin they were champions." 

Despite the dismal scores through the winless decades, Hoosier fans have kept on fanning. Tailgating Revelers in RV's travel in from hither, thither and yon for weekends of camp chairs and cornhole, bbq and beverages. Some might wander in to the stadium to watch actual games. I'm not sure.

Read more about the curious phenomenon of the dedicated tailgators here if you feel like it.  Here's an excerpt if you're short on time.

New Year’s Eve is not postponed because of a blizzard. Thanksgiving is not if a grocery store runs out of turkeys. Nor is tailgating abandoned because the home team is in a slump....

In the words of Carmel’s Angie Park, part of three couples who have consistently upgraded their tailgating into a super-sized RV and a restaurant-sized spread of eats over a dozen-year period, “We’ve never lost a tailgate.”

The prolonged "slump" is temporarily over. IU fans travelled down to "Indianta" for the Peach Bowl in droves. Kudos to all the teachers at the compound who went down to represent and help the team get the job done. We were short on subs, but we all have to do our part.  

I hope the Hoosiers win the Natty.  We need this. 

HOO HOO HOO HOOSIERS!

Friday, January 02, 2026

The Resolutions of Danielle deSpare


New year, new me  

2026

 my time 

 to gossip and bad mouth

judge others

watch reality tv nonstop

spend money on things i don't need, can't use

scroll my phone at dinner

limit myself to 1,000 steps

or less 

each day

talk trash and borrow trouble

miss appointments 

roll my eyes

live in fear

hold a grudge

dare the world to

knock the chip

off

my shoulder




Friday, December 26, 2025

The Trip to Asheville

It's the day after Christmas
and I'm sitting here
in an Asheville apartment
with biscuits and cheer

Leaned in to this holiday
with garlands and greenery
made merry with music
and lights, mountain scenery

here are some photos
some great times we've had
with Lucinda the Shoe-Eater 
and Quinn her jazz dad

could give more examples
in this charming verse
or just wrap it up
'fore it gets any worse























 

Kicking Around Toulouse

  Toulouse is a great city for kicking around.   Today I walked and wrote in the cloister of t he Couvent des Jacobins . This is where Domin...